Shining light into dark places

Most of us have kinks. Whether people are overtly cognizant of them or not, we all have something inside ourselves that at one point or another, helped to inform or even define our sexuality in ways that we might not have understood prior to our awareness of them. Kinks and fetishes have generally been those things that are relegated to chat rooms, private meetings, and other hush hush avenues of communication and experience. For a long time, there was an understandable reason for that as well. We simply didn’t have the societal structures of support needed to better share and explore our interests outside of backroom channels. And thank goodness for the boldness of those who were willing to organize, collaborate, and meet to explore a facet of our humanity that deserves better than to be hidden in the darkest recesses of the world. Our sexuality is a fundamentally important part of who we are and when we discuss any fetishes or kinks that we might have, we should be able to do so in a way that is powerfully confident, expressive and intimately genuine. Expression without judgement. Sharing without rebuke. Discussion without repression.

If you are a person who has such interests, the good news is that you now live in a world where these things are celebrated more than ever before. You DESERVE to be happy! You DESERVE to be loved! Surround yourself with people who support you even if they don’t always share your interests. Find like-minded people who get the psychological motivations behind your interests and ALLOW those people to share in your journey. Life doesn’t always have to be such an uphill battle. Time to ride the wave!